You’ve decided to propose to the love of your life. This is a huge moment for you and you’re likely feeling many different emotions right now. Obviously, one of these emotions is probably anxiety. That's okay. It's not that you're second-guessing your decision, but more likely that you're thinking about how big this moment is. Proposing is an important moment, and one that could change your life forever, so it’s only natural to feel a little anxious right now.
One aspect of a proposal that a lot of people overlook is what you’re actually going to say when you propose. It sounds weird, but many people plan the venue, the time, the date, and every other aspect of the proposal, but they don’t plan what they’re going to say. And you should definitely plan what you’re going to say. You don't want to end up drawing a blank at this important moment.
Of course, we're not saying that you should pull out a script and start reading from it, but it’s a very good idea to think about what you’re going to say before you propose. Otherwise, the scope of the moment could leave you speechless, and you don’t want to end up at a loss for words during your proposal.
If you’re struggling to think of what you will say when you propose, here are a few guidelines that could help you.
Think of When You Realized She Was the One
What was the moment when you realized that you wanted to spend the rest of your life with her? Why was that the moment? This is a great way to show her how much she means to you and how she is different than anyone else you've ever known. It could be a tender moment, a funny moment or a little bit of both, but it’s a unique moment that was shared between the two of you and that's what makes it special.
Tell Her What You Thought When You First Met Her
Was it love at first sight? What attracted you to her? How did you feel when you first met her? These are all thoughts that will make her feel special and help you explain how important she is to you.
Talk About Your Dreams for the Future
What do the two of you want to do in the future? Are you going to be international travellers? Will you go on adventures together? Do you want to start a family? The two of you have probably talked about your future together before but, when you propose, it’s important to let her know why you’re looking forward to the future and how great your lives together will be.
Tell Her How Your Life is Better with Her In It
What has she meant to you as a person? Has she made you more patient? More loving? More open? Does she give you confidence? Does she inspire you? Tell her all the ways that your life is better now that she is in it. And tell her what she has done to make these changes happen. You obviously don’t want to talk entirely about yourself during your proposal, but letting her know that you recognize how much she has done for you and that you appreciate her for who he is can be really special.
Talk About What Matters to Both of You
Tell her why the two of you are a perfect match. Maybe you both have the same sense of adventure or the same goals for the future. Maybe you bring the best out of one another. Maybe your shared faith is strengthened by the two of you being together. Let her know all the ways the two of you are on the same wavelength.
No matter what you say, be sure to end your speech with “Will you marry me?” Obviously, she’ll know that’s what you’re asking when you get down on one knee and present the ring, but it’s certainly something that is nice to hear and a moment she's likely been waiting for.
Of course, you will want to put whatever you say in your own words. This is a big emotional moment, so it’s important that you express yourself naturally and that you speak from the heart.
That said, you’ll also want to rehearse a couple of times. You don’t need to commit a speech to memory or anything, but it helps to go over it in your head so that you don’t forget the major points. Good luck!