Sometimes, when you’re in a relationship, it can be tough to know with certainly if your current partner really is “the one.” Is this the person you want to spend the rest of your life with? This is a common worry for many people. But that isn’t all you might be concerned about.
There’s a chance that you’re looking inward at yourself and wondering whether or not you’re ready for marriage. Marriage can be a scary concept for many people. You might be afraid that you’re not ready to “settle down.” You might be concerned that you haven’t found the right person. You could be second-guessing yourself for various reasons. In order to have a successful marriage, it’s important that you’re in the right place emotionally when you make the decision to get married.
Here are some signs that you might be ready to get married.
You Talk About “When” Rather Than “If”
How do you talk about your future together? Do you say things like “when we retire” or “when we own a home?” Or are you more likely to say “if we live together one day?” These simple statements can mean a lot. If you’re saying (and thinking) “we” rather than “if” it shows that deep down you believe that you’ll be with this person for a very long time.
You Can Discuss “Real” Things
Being in a couple is fun. You can laugh and joke and have a great time. It’s nice to be able to have someone to watch TV with, travel with, and kid around with. However, it’s also important that you’re able to talk about “real” things. This means being able to have productive discussions about money, religion, children, politics, and other things that matter to you. If you can discuss these important issues with one another, this is a good sign.
You Can Disagree
All couples disagree sometimes. There is simply no way that you are going to agree on absolutely everything all the time. And that’s fine. However, it’s important that couples know how to disagree respectfully. If you are confident enough in your relationship that you can disagree with your partner (and not be insulting, demeaning or upset while doing it) then you’re likely in a relationship that will last.
You Start Looking at “Wedding Stuff” More Often
When you’re emotionally ready to get married, you almost instinctively start looking at “wedding stuff” more often. If you’re a woman, you might be looking at wedding dresses a bit more than usual. Both men and women may find themselves paying more attention to engagement rings and wedding bands. You might also start picturing venues as potential wedding locations and thinking about the time of year that you’d like to get married. If you are spending more time dreaming about your own future wedding than usual, you are likely ready to be married.
You Think About the Marriage, Not Just the Wedding
The wedding is important. It’s a big day filled with fun and excitement. You’re surrounded by your family and friends and you’re telling the world how in love you are. It’s also an event that you’ll spend a lot of time planning for.
However, as big as the wedding day is, it’s really just the beginning of the story between the two of you as a married couple. A marriage is about more than just a wedding. It’s about spending time together, supporting each other, being there for one another, and truly being partners. It’s about growing old together. If, when you think about getting married, you find yourself thinking about more than just the wedding day, then you’re truly ready to be married.
Of course, it’s important to remember that every relationship is different. There will be unique signs for each couple and different things will tell different people that they’re ready for marriage. The important thing is that you truly think about your future together before you get married. If you’re able to see a vision of the two of you together twenty years from now, and you like what you see, then you’re ready to get married.