We all know that planning an engagement is tough and that keeping the whole thing a surprise can be even tougher. However, one of the most difficult parts is often a very practical point that you may not even think of: How do you figure out her ring size without her thinking something is up?
Sure, you could always guess and hope that the ring fits. After all, you can likely get the ring resized later. But then you have to propose with a ring that slides off of her finger - or worse - a ring that you can't get onto her finger at all. While a ring that doesn't fit won't likely be a deal-breaker, it can take something away from your proposal.
So how do you find out her ring size? It can be tougher than you'd expect. The simple fact that is most people don't even know their own ring size, so you can't be blamed for not knowing hers. And it's not like you can just ask her without it sounding incredibly suspicious. So what do you do? Here are a few suggestions:
Use an Existing Ring
This will require some stealth. What you will need to do is get one of her existing rings and use that to determine her ring size. Of course, you'll want to do this without her finding out about it. Maybe snoop around in her jewelry box when she's in the shower, for example. When you do, make sure that it's a ring from the correct finger as different fingers are different sizes.
Once you have the ring, there are a few things that you can do with it. If you don't think that she will miss the ring if it's gone for a little while, take it to the jeweler and have them measure it for you. This is likely going to give you the most accurate measurement.
If you can't take the ring away without her wondering what happened to it, there are a few options. You could download a ring sizer off of the internet. You could trace the ring on a piece of paper. You could use a string to measure the size. Then you can take any of these measurements to a jeweler. You might not get a perfect measurement using these methods, but you'll at least get close.
Ask for Help
We've said before that one of the best ways to ensure that your engagement plans remain a secret is to avoid telling anyone who doesn't need to know, but desperate times call for desperate measures. If you can't find her ring size by using one of her existing rings, another way to find out this information is to ask around.
Try asking her closest friends or family members and see if they know anything about her ring size. Of course, only ask those who you can trust to keep a secret. Again, you might not get a perfect measurement, but you'll probably end up in the right ballpark.
If this method doesn't work, you'll have to take a guess. The most common ring sizes for women are between 5 and 7. If she has more slender fingers, pick something smaller. If she has larger fingers, go for a larger size. And ask the jeweler if the ring can be resized when you buy it.