When it comes to asking her to marry you, there are many, many different ways to do it. In fact, one of the most fun parts of being engaged is that you get to tell all of your friends and family members how it happened. Everyone loves to hear a good engagement story.
For this reason, it’s important that you spend some time planning your proposal. Do you want to do it at home? On vacation? In a special location? Do you want her to be surprised or would you rather discuss it beforehand? The answers to all of these questions will depend on your preferences and your specific relationship. However, the most important question to ask yourself is “What would she want?”
Giving Her the Proposal She Wants
Unfortunately, people sometimes lose sight of the purpose of a marriage proposal. While we all want a great story and a memorable moment to treasure for the rest of our lives, the most important part is that you have a moment of love to share with the person who you want to spend the rest of your life with.
That’s why it’s so important to think hard about what she would want from her proposal. After all, you’re doing this for her.
Some women would be perfectly happy with a public proposal. They would love to be the center of attention and to have everyone cheer when they say yes. For these women, it makes perfect sense to propose at a sporting event, concert, restaurant, tourist site or any other public place. If this is the type of girlfriend that you have then, by all means, propose in public.
However, other people are less public. If you think that your girlfriend would be embarrassed or taken aback by a public proposal, perhaps you should consider popping the question in private instead. The last thing you want to do is make her feel uncomfortable and awkward during what should be a very special and meaningful moment.
It's also important to note that even some people who normally love public displays of affection may prefer a more private proposal. Some women may want this special moment to only be shared by the two of you. They want to be able to truly experience the special connection that they have with you in private. Again, if this is how you believe your significant other feels, they you might want to reconsider a public proposal.
The most important part is that you remain focused on her during the entire proposal planning process. It’s easy to get wrapped up in grandiose ideas and excited by a public proposal. But, if it’s not something she would like, then you’re better off toning it down a bit. A private proposal, shared between just the two of you, can be just as memorable – and just as amazing of a story – as a more public proposal.